DIVINE Magazine"Be Encouraged. Be Grateful. Be Inspired.": April 2013

"Still Dating My Spouse"
Marriage Enthusiasts

Pamela & Stephon King
By Staff Blogger Tiffoni Mitchell

They are back...... Pamela and Stephon King sat down with DIVINE to share more wisdom and knowledge about how to keep your marriage growing and strong as you proclaim, I am "Still Dating My Spouse."

DIVINE:: What does a couple need to do to begin the process of dealing with the issues in their relationship?

SDMS:: Acknowledge that there are issues in their relationship. This can only occur if they both are being truthful and transparent.

DIVINE: For those who are experiencing a "solid" marriage so to speak, what can they do to keep and maintain a strong relationship?

SDMS:: Continue to communicate/talk, continue to share and be open and honest with each other. And continue the dating process, whatever that looks like in their marriage.

DIVINE:: What are the most common concerns that couples have?

SDMS:: Trust and financial issues are on the top of most couples concern list.

DIVINE:: How can SDMS help couples that have tried everything but still have found themselves, "at the end of the rope,"?

SDMS:: We suggest that couples STOP and really think about what the true issues are. Write them down. Write down what caused the issues. Write down the solutions to the problems, but remember the solutions are what YOU can do to eliminate that issue. Sometimes we think we are “at the end of our rope” but we are just at the end of trying to do better. So, recognize the situation for what it is. Don’t just give up over a small hiccup that can be resolved by communicating and giving of yourself 100%.

•Let's switch gears a little.

DIVINE:: How big of an impact do you desire to make with SDMS?

SDMS:: Locally, regionally, worldwide. Our biggest impact we are striving for is getting couples to implement regular date nights and this will help them build on their marital foundation. We plan to impact marriages by offering resources, events, and tools for couples. We are God driven and we are going in the direction He directs us to impact the greatest number of marriages.

DIVINE:: The Internet is an awesome communication tool, how has it helped you with SDMS and reaching couples?

SDMS:: We are saturating the Internet with our message. We are meeting the couples where they are and that is via social media. We have meet hundreds ,thousands of couples this way. We are able to counsel, pray, and talk with couples due to our presence on the Internet.

DIVINE:: What upcoming events can our readers look forward to from SDMS?

SDMS:: The Love Summit, August 23-25, 2013. This is a marriage retreat like no other. We have some dynamic speakers and workshops planned. This is not a sit in your seat and be preached to retreat, this retreat will be interactive and the workshops are couple driven (topics were decided by married couples). Text LOVESUMMIT to 33733 to get updates about the Love Summit and when tickets go on sale.

DIVINE:: In what way can you challenge couples to implement changes to better their marriage?

SDMS:: We challenge couples to think about your spouses reaction first to the decisions you make before you make them. Another challenge is: regardless of what is going on during the day, call your spouse once and just say I love you. Don’t have an expectation that your spouse must say it back to you. Just make that connection once a day. If you need to put a reminder in your phone/calendar, go ahead but give it a try for a week and watch how easily the lines of communication begin to open up.

DIVINE:: How can SDMS help singles?

SDMS:: Our advice to singles is get to know yourself before you try to get to know a potential mate. Love self. Know what makes you tick. Then you will be able to love someone else the way they need to be loved without compromising your self love.

Once again Pamela and Stephon King have shared from their arsenal about how to make a marriage loving, healthy and strong. Even our single readers received helpful information that will help as they embark on the road to "Wedded Bliss."